Several years ago, I started a Facebook group called, 60 Miles in September. It was born out of a challenge I created for myself to help me get through this month. This year on September 30th, it will be 7 years since my son Zack took his own life. As a matter of fact, this entire blog was God’s way of helping me through this painful, heart-breaking loss of my son. In May of this year, my youngest son had a wreck that sent him by life-flight to Grady Hospital. By the grace of God, he is doing great. He doesn’t remember the accident, his recovery time was quick and he was only left with some cool scars and no vehicle to drive. My recovery was not so quick. I barely remember the month of May. I remember a long walk pouring out my heart to God and just telling Him I was mad at Him. I’m a firm believer that all things in our life happen for His greater purpose and I am willing to walk this walk, but I was mad still. I lost my job in early June, but it was a mutual departure with no hard feelings. I just needed time and I felt like God provided it at a time when at least for a short time, we could handle it.
During this season, I have done a lot of soul-searching. I don’t have a lot of answers or any amazing revelations, but I know that I have a calling. It is not a calling I chose for myself or even want. All I know is that if I can make any difference in another persons life by bringing more awareness to the subject of suicide, then I have to do it. I’m not sure what it will look like, but I know that He is pushing me to something bigger than myself. So this month, this 60 Miles in September, I am truly pushing to raise awareness. It is more than just walking or running for the memories of our loved ones. It’s about reaching out. It’s about having faith and holding on. I am raising donations for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. And my hope is that you will join me in this fight to bring hope to others who have lost theirs.
In John 10:10 Jesus (The Shepherd) says this about His sheep (that’s us): “A thief comes to steal, to kill and to destroy. I have come so that they may have life and have it in abundance.” The truth is that we are in a spiritual battle. The enemy wants you to believe you are worthless, unloved, beyond forgiveness, can never break free of your chains…fill in the blank with whatever negative, destructive thoughts you have about yourself. But Jesus. Jesus wants you to have life! Abundant life. Joy. Hope. Faith. He wants you to trust Him to provide that for you. That doesn’t mean easy living, no problems ever, health, wealth. It means having a peace that surpasses your understanding. It means that when the world seems like it’s falling apart around you (plans are not going like they should, you’re feeling like quitting, there seems to be no hope, etc), you can trust that He is with you. You don’t know how He’s going to get you through it, you just know He is. Why? Because He loves you and He promised He would never leave you or forsake you.
That is where my hope comes from. It is what has held me together through the loss of a spouse and the loss of a child. It’s what opened my eyes to my own destructive lifestyle when I was younger. It’s what drives me to tell others that Jesus is the only way I know to bring hope to a dying world. A world that is killing itself. A world that is trying to fill this need with everything from drugs and alcohol, to unhealthy relationships, gambling, pornography, food, etc. The very things that you are using to numb your pain are the things the enemy is using to kill you, to steal your joy and destroy your life and keep you from the peace you are seeking and the Jesus who can provide it.
I didn’t mean to preach. But I have watched people I know and love fall into these destructive coping strategies (if you want to call it that), and then turn around and blame God for the consequences of their own choices. As a matter of fact, I was one of those people as well. I know much of what people go through is beyond their control. I know there are real chemical imbalances sometimes that cause people to struggle. I’m not discounting those. But if we are truly honest with ourselves, sometimes we are just living with decisions we have made that have put us so far into the pit that we feel like we can’t get out. I found myself there as a young adult. What changed my life was the realization that God wasn’t condemning me for all I had done wrong (I was doing plenty of that on my own), and the realization that He still loved me and He actually went so far as to die for me. The creator of the world, loves me and cares about me—that knowledge changed my heart. It can change every heart, not just a few– His love is the power to change and heal your heart because He created your heart. He loves you right there in the middle of all your messes. I guess that’s my calling. I just want to love people like Jesus, right where they are. And maybe that will be just the hope they need.
So, that is why I walk. That is why I’m bringing awareness. To bring people hope. To share my story and the reason for my hope, Jesus Christ.